Both times around the weaning process has been bittersweet. But this time it was a little less bitter.
In August of 2008 we found out we were expecting Stephen Small. Since then I have been either a) pregnant or b) nursing. That's 3.5 consecutive years (and I know many women have gone longer). There was even a short stent in summer 2010 that I was both nursing (Stephen) and pregnant (with Laurie). These were sweet times. But I eagerly welcome this new phase in which my children are not literally dependent on my anatomy and physiology for their sustenance.
Now that I have lived through both years of my children's little bitty babyhood, I'm concluding that it takes a year, a good full year to sorta feel like yourself and to establish a new normal. That first year of life is demanding. We don't give that fact enough weight these days.
After Stephen was born, I was super eager to jump back into busy life again. And once I did - it did not go well. I had sorely underestimated the amount of attention and care a baby needs.
So when Laurie came along I was better prepared to lay low and to embrace lots of home days. I said no a lot. Now that she's older we get out and do more. I'm not as hesitant to commit to plans.
I think this is going to be a fun and refreshing season.
Bring on the canned tuna and booze.
KIDDING.
They are so darling.
ReplyDeleteI love your mindset. I so agree that the early years demand our full attention. At first I felt apologetic, but NO MORE. In fact, I would say that when G started kindergarten, life took on a new layer of busyness that took me by surprise. I've renewed my resolve to put my family first, which means saying no a lot.
ReplyDeleteOh, I so agree with the whole year to get back into our pre-baby selves. We saw a lot of extended family this week and so many people shunned me for not bringing the twins out and about more. They don't understand survival mode very well. I have treasured this year that I could keep the world away while I love on my babies in the sweetness of our home. Your posts are so encouraging!
ReplyDeleteIt is just so true that it takes a year for things to stabilize! There is so much change that first year!! I remember when Ev turned one things just got so predictable and so much easier. She ate and slept like normal human finally! That's what freaks me out so much about having a 6 week old!! Back to square one. I think your advice to just say no and stay put is wise! I know this new stage will be so fun for you! Enjoy your body's freedom!
ReplyDeleteI love that - bring on the booze - had me cracking up. I had 4 months in between having a weaned daughter and being pregnant. Oh it was freedom.
ReplyDeleteYour candor scares me and encourages me. I am craving honesty from others as I am preparing for motherhood. So thanks! I enjoyed our visit the other day!
ReplyDeleteweaning...ugh. it's heartbreaking and heart-freeing at the same time. here's to saying yes a little more!!
ReplyDeleteI can imagine that weaning is such a bittersweet thing. Miss LB looks like she's adjusted just fine, though.
ReplyDeleteAnd the tuna and beer? Ha! You kill me, SBS. I'll send you some Natty L and some Starfish.